After one of many girly chats and some differing views on ‘The One’ I decided to find out what people really think – guys and girls.
So are girls obsessed with finding their soul mate while guys are just happy to go with the flow and simple ‘settle’ for someone who makes a good curry and ahem satisfies their ‘needs’? I attempt to find out…..
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“For me, The One is someone who will happily bring me a cup of tea in the morning, and who is willing to play multi-lingual scrabble with me, without thinking I’m a massive geek. (Even though I am)”
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“I believe it is the most special sensation to fall in love and to have someone reciprocate in like kind. The quiet nobility of a good life is sometimes all we can ask for, and in this way dreams do come true every day.”
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“I don’t think anyone is The One. They all screw you over. THEY’RE ALL PRICKS!”
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“I think everyone will have an opportunity to meet The One.” | |
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“I think the idea that there is only one person out there for you is insane! Boys are like friends – each offering something different which you may love for completely different reasons! How boring life would be if everything were so set in stone.”
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“For me The One is a girl that I can be myself around, who makes me happy and is always there when I need her.” | |
| “I believe that everyone has someone that they will meet and class as The One but then in time they split up and meet someone else and realise that they’re The One.” | “Well as I don’t believe love to be an emotion in itself, my opinion of the one is not simply the one you love. In my opinion, love is a combination of social, financial, physical and psychological satisfaction. Whilst it is fair to say a partner can meet these needs, the ‘one’ is someone you can merely sustain all these factors with, for an extended length of time, i.e. the majority of your life time.” | |
| “The One does not wear skinny jeans!” |
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| “The One is someone who you will think about when you’re not with them…and even when you are. Every moment with them matters…the good and the bad.” | “I believe in The One but I also believe there’s more than one person you can be very happy with.” | |
| “The One is like a ghost, we talk about them but do they really exist……….?” | “The ancient Greeks believe that you and your one was an item in a previous life and your soul searches for the return of the one! I definitely think The One exists.” | |
| “My mum found my dad when she was like 16, and always thought she was silly because you need to enjoy your younger days but then I met James and it completely changed my view on thing’s.” | “The one is hard to find but there’s got to be one out there for everyone.” |
After conducting this little Facebook survey and getting the opinions of both guys and girls I was actually surprised. While the girls definitely had more views on the yucky love stuff and I had lot’s more replies from them, the guys that did reply were actually quite soppy.
So what do I believe?
Every person you have a relationship with is The One for you at some point…why else would you be with them? However, for whatever reason you split up they are no longer your One and the next person is. Surely when people get married they assume the person they are marrying is their soul mate but divorce happens so what does that say about things?
People change and go through different stages in their lives and so perhaps it’s having high expectations to think that there is one person that will love you for the person you were, person you are, and person you will become. Or maybe it’s just being a hopeless romantic?
All I know is I’m not going to waste my life searching for The One; it may happen it may not. Maybe the idea of The One is a myth but then again maybe it’s not.
For now, I’ll live my life with the words of a very wise friend in mind: “I don’t believe in the one, I believe there‘s one for now, one for later, and a few for in between.”
-Megan Smith writes for Valley Girls in the City