‘Let’s talk about sex, baby. Let’s talk about you and me. Let’s talk about all the good things, and the bad things that may be.’
The 1991 song by Salt ‘n’ Pepa broke a lot of taboos by suggesting that we should be more open about our sex lives, so we can gain an understanding of the positives and negatives of sex and how to remain safe.
It has however, become commonplace for people to talk to everyone about their sex lives, and I do mean EVERYONE.
I was on the bus the other day and was sat near a girl who was having a loud conversation with a friend about someone she had hooked up with, and the conversation included a graphic description of what they did that night… and where… and how long for.
Sorry, but TOO MUCH INFORMATION.
In some situations it is nice to have a cheeky gossip with your friends about personal matters.
It shows that you feel comfortable enough around them to reveal private insights into your life, and you trust them not to reveal everything that you have just confided in them.
But in other situations, you blabbering on about the intricate details of your sex life can make people feel very uncomfortable.
It was a public space, I had no idea who this person was (although I later discovered she is a very adventurous person, if you get my drift) and we were sat on a busy bus with people of various ages.
Some people are naturally private about their personal life, but there seems to be an element of a ‘bragging culture,’ where certain people feel the need to divulge into every detail of the how, what, who, when, and where’s of their sex life. WE REALLY DO NOT NEED TO KNOW.
I have some suggestions if you find yourself in the presence of a person who you find uncomfortably open and vocal about their sex life.
Suggest that they start using a ‘swear jar,’ but rather than putting money in the jar for the use of profanities, encourage that person to chip in some small change or donate some money to charity whenever they mention any under-the-sheets shenanigans.
Or better still, invest in a foghorn or some pepper spray to blast in the face of the perpetrator, before making a swift exit.
Keep it in your pants, or keep your mouth SHUT.